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Beyond He and She: Understanding Pronouns and Non-Binary Identity


Throughout history, diverse cultures have recognised and embraced non-binary people, affirming their unique experiences and identities. Today, as conversations surrounding gender expand, it is crucial to understand and respect the pronouns that people use to express themselves. In this article, we will explore the meaning of non-binary identity, discuss the difference between being non-binary and transgender, highlight the significance of pronouns, and emphasise the importance of creating an inclusive community.

Life Isn’t Binary

Let's start by recognising that many aspects of life defy rigid binary classification. Binary thinking often permeates our society, leading us to believe that things can only be one way or another. However, there are numerous aspects of human existence that occur on a spectrum rather than a zero-one system. These include our mental health, emotions, body image, career paths, relationships, culture and ethnicity, and skills among many others. By understanding that most things exist on a spectrum, it becomes easier to grasp that identity and self-expression are also part of this non-binary nature.

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Non-Binary Identity: History and Examples

Non-binary identity encompasses a broad range of gender experiences that fall outside the traditional binary understanding of male and female. In various cultures, such as among the indigenous people of North America, there have long been individuals known as Two-Spirit people, who embody both masculine and feminine qualities. This cultural recognition demonstrates the existence of non-binary identities beyond the Western gender binary.

Understanding Non-Binary and Trans Identities

While the term “trans” or "transgender" is often used as an umbrella term for people whose gender identity differs from their assigned sex at birth, it is important to recognise that not all non-binary people identify as transgender. Transgender people may identify as male, female, or another gender, whereas non-binary people may reject the concept of gender as a binary altogether.

Pronouns and Their Importance

Pronouns are linguistic tools used to refer to people in the third person. While they/them pronouns are commonly used by non-binary people, it is important to note that some non-binary individuals may use multiple pronouns, such as she/they. This choice reflects their unique experience of gender and allows for a more nuanced expression of their identity. It is crucial to note that people may use multiple pronouns to reflect their gender identity. Respecting and using the correct pronouns is a way to affirm someone's identity. By doing so, we create an inclusive environment that recognises and affirms the diverse experiences and identities of non-binary people.

A drawing of 6 diverse people with different pronouns on their hoodies. She/her, he/him, they/them, she/her.

Respecting Pronouns: Best Practices

Respecting people's pronouns is essential for fostering inclusivity and creating a safe space for everyone. When introducing yourself, it is best practice to share your own pronouns. For example, “My name is Monica, my pronouns are she/her”. This normalises the practice and encourages others to do the same without singling out non-binary people. Additionally, including pronouns in email signatures is becoming increasingly common, allowing people to express their pronouns proactively and reducing the burden on marginalised people to disclose their pronouns. This practice also helps ensure we don’t misgender someone unknowingly.

Making Mistakes and Apologising

Inevitably, mistakes may occur when using someone's pronouns. It is essential not to make a spectacle out of such instances, as it can make the person uncomfortable, particularly if done in public. Instead, simply apologise, correct yourself, and move on. The willingness to learn and improve demonstrates respect and a commitment to inclusivity.

Legal Recognition and Progress

Several countries have made significant strides in recognising non-binary identities by introducing a non-binary gender option on official documents, such as passports and identification cards. These countries include Canada, Australia, New Zealand, the Netherlands, Iceland, the United States, Argentina, Mexico, India, and Nepal. This recognition reflects the growing awareness and acceptance of gender diversity on a global scale.

3 gender options to choose from on a paper form - female, male and X

Creating an Inclusive World

Respecting people's pronouns and embracing non-binary identities contributes to building a more inclusive society. By striving to understand different experiences and perspectives, we foster empathy and create a world where everyone feels valued and accepted for who they are. Recognising and respecting pronouns is a powerful step towards eradicating gender-based discrimination and creating a more equitable future.


The understanding and acceptance of non-binary identities are crucial aspects of building an inclusive society. By recognising the historical presence of non-binary people and understanding the difference between non-binary and transgender identities, we can appreciate the diverse experiences of gender. Respecting and using correct pronouns, introducing oneself with pronouns, and including pronouns in email signatures are all important steps in affirming other people.


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